What’s Your Life Like?
What I mean to ask is, what’s your mental and spiritual life like? Are you coping? Are you dealing with the daily chaos the world is dishing out? Is life making you anxious? Do you have inner peace in spite of what’s going on in the world?
You and I both know that we aren’t in control of most of the stuff going on around us. The world seems to be descending into chaos. It’s getting out of control. About the only thing we can control is ourselves, and sometimes even that seems impossible.
These days everything has become political. Everything has become polarized too. And chaotic. No matter what your worldview is, or your political persuasion, the other side thinks you’re wrong and hates you. Seems like it anyway.
Sometimes I get tired of the utter shrillness, silliness, and intolerance of it all. Maybe I should just move away from everybody and live in a cave. It’d be more peaceful.
No, It Really Wouldn’t
Living in a cave would suck. Running away isn’t a solution. We need to learn to live in the chaos, but not be a part of the chaos. How to do that? I’ve got three simple tips, that if followed, will help you find balance in your life and help you achieve an inner peace that will help keep the stress and the heartburn out of your life. These tips are simple, but they’re not easy. You have to work on each one to master it.
If you know it’s wrong, don’t do it.
Simple as that. Don’t try to justify yourself when you do something wrong or spin it or tell yourself that the end justifies the means. It’s not true. Some people today who want to make something happen, or want to reach some goal, don’t mind lying, cheating, or trying to ruin whoever gets in their way of getting what they want. We see that every day, don’t we? That’s wrong, and if you’re like that you need to stop.
But, like I said, just because it’s simple doesn’t mean it’s easy. It can be very hard. That’s where character comes in.
You have a conscience. So do I. When we act contrary to how we know we should act, we lose inner peace. It’s called a guilty conscience and we’ve all experienced it. Isn’t it better to just refuse to do bad things?
If people lived by a Code of Honor, a lot of world’s big issues would be gone. Let me qualify that a little. If EVERYONE lived by a code of honor, the big issues would be gone. I think the majority of people try to live honorable lives, it’s the insane fringe of screaming, intolerant “I’m offended!” people who make life difficult for the rest of us.
If you know it’s right, don’t ignore it.
This is the flip side of tip #1. It’s become too easy to walk away from, or turn our backs on, something that needs doing. We need to do what needs doing because it’s the right thing to do. Remember the “I don’t want to get involved” 70s? I think it was the 70s. Maybe it was the 80s. You can correct me with a comment below if I’m wrong.
We say, “Doing the right thing is hard!” Or we hope someone else will do it instead of us.
Do you stop to help a stranded motorist? Do you offer to help a neighbor with the yard work when they are elderly or have a disability? Would you run to the aid of someone being assaulted or raped?
Do you live the golden rule? You remember that one, right? Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.
Tip #2 should be part of our Code of Honor too. Think what the world would be like if all of us refrained from doing what we know is wrong, and also actively did what we know is right too. There would be no more conflict in the world.
Human nature seems to run in the opposite direction. People let their passions and emotions rule them, and would rather stir the pot than calm things down.
Cultivate kindness and respect for people you don’t like.
Everyone respects and is kind to the people that they like. That’s not hard. It’s the ones who annoy us and drive us crazy that we find it hard to treat kindly. Especially if they act like royal jerks.
There are people that I basically can’t stand, and they’re the ones who are creating the chaos in the world. It rubs me the wrong way when people who have some power or are in a position of authority are rude, condescending, or dismissive of others.
People in authority should be respectful, simply because they are in authority. They shouldn’t lord it over others or demand to be treated as our betters.
After all, doesn’t the Declaration of Independence tell us that all men are created equal?
I don’t know if you’ve seen the movie Road House, with Patrick Swayze. There’s a quote from the movie that sums up how to treat people. He’s training people how to be bouncers in a bar. He tells them to “Be nice.” When dealing with drunk, rowdy people trying to get into fights, he tells his bouncers to be nice. When one of the bouncers asks what to do when things get dicey, he says, “Be nice, until I tell you not to be nice.”
So we should be nice. We should be kind. Not many of us are bouncers in a bar. Kindness should be a part of our character, too.
We don’t have to agree with everyone, but we can be kind to them. We can respect them as human beings. It might not change the way they think and act, but that’s not the point.
You’re trying to change the way YOU think and act.
I’m trying to change the way I think and act, too.
Do you think you would gain inner peace if your conscience was clear, from “sins” of commission and omission, and if we were kind and respectful to others? I do. Think about it.
Why not give it a try. For a month, try to apply the three tips in your life. See if you find yourself felling more peaceful inside, less prone to anger and able to smile more. I think you’ll like the results.
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